You too can mentor.
Why am I telling you my story? I want you to be able to have significance and impact in your life, for good. Whoever you are, however little you have. You can do this. Whether you are still at school, or are a senior citizen, or are in a culture, family, or peer group, where you end up thinking that you have not got much to offer. So mentoring can occur anywhere – at home, school, the workplace, church or on some project you may be doing. It just needs people – people who can mentor.
How do I mentor?
a. Have a clear goal. Prioritise the person more than the product. Don’t just focus on passing skills or knowledge onto the other person, but also on the growth of themselves as a person. Try and remember that the person is more important the product and in many ways, the employee is more important than the customer. Get this order right and see what happens. In the Living Wholeness community we highlight this by the importance of growing the “T.A.S.K.” of another, the transformation of attitudes, coming out through growing skills and knowledge. God-centred transformation is what the 1st book of the three-part series is all about.
So we try and aim for 2 dimensions of change; not just to be out of function better (skills), know more (knowledge) but also be able to have the right attitudes particularly of caring, respect and choice. Undergirding all of these is the other dimension of change, moving from self-centred to God centred. Regardless of how good we might be, self-centred flourishing is just simply toxic. Here the fittest survive, at the expense of those who may be struggling. Jesus, the most flourishing person there has been, turned the evolutionary war cry of “survival of the fittest right” on its head. He went to those who are suffering and in need.
This can be illustrated by us being in the top right and quadrant of the Square, allowing us to go to others to lift them up further.
b. Have a clear process. Whenever we ask “how do I…..?” whatever that might be as long as it is to do with a person/group of people, the CURE is the answer. Sounds arrogantly simplistic. However it is profoundly simple that anyone can get it. In essence it takes the, “how to” out of the hands of experts and puts into the heart of anyone who wants to grow others, including themselves. So what is this “CURE”? It is exactly how it is spelt. Firstly there is the development of the relationship or alliance (connection) with the person who you are mentoring. Secondly get an understanding of the issues which they are struggling with. Thirdly work together on a plan of action, a response. There may well be a need to engage help from someone else in addition to yourself. (An easy way to remember this process is that through the acrostic, c.u.r.e. .)
Thus there is the importance of under girding with the supervisee, getting a good of not just the clinical problem, but also what is happening for the supervisee within themselves in relation to what is going on. It is only then that in the context of supervision that helpful can be taken away by the supervisee and applied to the clinical context. Supervision might also involve the need to whether that be in terms of further reading or facilitating someone else to be involved in the supervisee’s situation.
Dr John Warlow