These books can give you a picture language to help you change personally, as well as in your relationships and then to help others to grow. What you will read in this series is how to grow as a whole person, spiritually, personally and socially. Wherever you are at on your spiritual journey, this can provide ways to help you to understand the real importance of this side of your life and how it can affect and become the foundation of every other aspect. You will be able to see exactly what a whole person looks like, and where you are at regarding at, right from the depths of your being through to the outside social aspects of what is going on around you. In addition, you will be able to start to look at questions like, Why I am here, Who am I and How am I ? Where am I at and Where am I going ? Underpinning all of this is that you don’t need to do this alone. We all need others and do get to a place where we can then serve others in return.
Whenever someone asks me, “how do I……..” and if it is to do with people I often just fall back on what I call, “the steps”. As you will find, the steps follow the acronym
“C.U.R.E” standing for connect and understand before we respond and then engage help. As my boy Daniel said, these are spelt “C.U.R.E.” and not “R.U.C.E.” There is a massive rationale to the order. The bottom line is you can do no growth with yourself, spiritually or personally, unless there is some kind of connection. That connection has to be safe. We break that down and define safety to make it really easy for you to be able to filter out relationships which maybe you should be moving away from and work on those relationships which have potential. If you are committed to someone, it will help you to find out how to grow a secure base. From there you can then go on to understand or really, “get” what is happening with you, the other person and the relationship, so that you can move up and proactively react in an intentional way, proactively respond in an intentional way, rather than just reacting to what is going on outside of you. The engage help step is so powerful in terms of doing things the way we were made to do, which is doing things together.
If you take on this language in a serious way, you will find that it will transform you from the inside out. Your attitudes will change and the atmosphere where you are at home or at work or in the place of education can also start to change. You will learn about ways of growth and relating which you can then live out and develop skills for life, which you can pass on to others.
Dr John Warlow